Saturday, July 21, 2012

Just a question

How many years has it been now, that natural breasts are out of style?
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  1. JenniferJuly 22, 2012 at 2:36 PM

    If a woman has had her breast done, would she be any less feminist?

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    1. Lady JJuly 22, 2012 at 3:30 PM

      Good question. She is not necessarily less feminist. Also, women undergo surgery for different reasons.

      I enjoy having small breasts, but have an awareness that there are many men who either "tolerate" small breasts or have some sort of fetish. Both cases are disappointing. I will not limit men to these two categories. This is just an example of what I've been exposed to.

      The thought behind the above statement, is not that I would like men to enjoy ME, the way I am. I'm not focusing on myself for the purpose of the above statement. My statement above, is about a general view point that I am exposed to every day. A view point that we are ALL exposed to every day. Not all notice this, or care.

      I think there is nothing wrong with enjoying large breasts. Nothing at all. I just think that we are saturated with the idea that only large breasted women are truly womanly. We as women are TOLD what beauty should be. Also, the fake look has become increasingly popular. So much, that young men, do not know what a natural breast looks like. So, when an elementary aged boy, grows to an age when he finally sets his eyes on a natural, naked breast, he might be in for a surprise. Perhaps a disappointment as well.

      Fake breasts create a breast that is truly manufactured. Many fake breasts today are made to look as though a woman's breast starts at a higher part of the body. I'm not speaking just to size, I'm speaking to location.

      I do not shame women who have gone under the knife. I do not criticize women who want large breasts. I do, however, take issue with the patriarchal stance that suggests that women can only enjoy their bodies if they adhere to what they think men want. So, there is a question as to whether insecurity which stems from patriarchy, plays a role. It is tragic when a woman can only enjoy her body in response to a man's opinion. I feel violated when I am bombarded with images that have been foisted upon us for the sake of profit. Images which insist that I don't look quite right and that I would benefit from implants.

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    2. JenniferJuly 24, 2012 at 7:38 PM

      Thank you for your answer! You write so wonderfully and I always love reading your thoughts/opinion on a matter. You give me much more understanding on the subject itself and various aspects of it.

      Sometimes I get confused over beauty. Do I want to be pretty for myself or for others to find me pretty? If I think that I am pretty, isn't it because others thing that I am pretty? If I want to be pretty, it's because I want to fit a certain society criteria, isn't it? Then am I imprisoned to what this patriarchal influenced society/media defines as beauty?

      I guess that sometimes, I'm scared that I'm not feminist enough.

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    3. Lady JJuly 24, 2012 at 9:06 PM

      Oh, Jennifer, you are too kind. Thank you muchly.

      Know that you are not the only woman who feels confused. I feel it and many others feel it. We are all, after all, living underneath the tent of patriarchy.

      All the questions you listed above, are questions that I have asked myself. I want to feel pretty for me and I've always told myself that it doesn't matter if others think I'm attractive. To an extent that is true. If others think I'm unattractive; fine. But I do not know that it is truly and fully possible for a person to regard themselves without being influenced by societal factors.

      I understand that you might feel "imprisoned." It's a frightening thought, isn't it?

      Working towards undoing what has been done by patriarchy is a long life process. In other words, we needn't feel badly about ourselves, just because we haven't yet reached a point where we feel free of sexism.

      We can only work within ourselves to discover how and what we feel about beauty, and then work towards tweaking what needs tweaking in our minds. Practice practice. We will fall down, we will get up, we will feel frustrated, we will feel joy, we will feel a million things, and we will keep going.

      I actively seek out opinions about beauty (as I do with any topic I'm interested in) via books, online articles, etc). I've noticed that being involved with the "blogosphere" has helped me express myself, and learn. I read blogs of others, and I learn how others describe their world view. Exploring these avenues, have shown me, that I (and you) am indeed not alone.

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    4. Lady JJuly 24, 2012 at 9:08 PM

      P.S. Don't feel that you are not enough of a feminist. You haven't betrayed your fellow sisters, or yourself. You struggle just as we all do.

      I've written posts about make-up and body shaving, and if women are less of a feminist if they partake in these activities. In a nutshell, the answer is "no."

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