Friday, April 30, 2010

one of my favorite duets ever

L' Eclipse by Mathieu Chedid and Sean Lennon

On plane
L'amour léger dans l'âme
On a tellement de chance
On saute du coq à l'âne
La tête dans les étoiles
Une chanson est un jeu alors
Faisons de notre mieux
Faisons-le savoir

Si on s'éclipse ce soir
On le sait tous les deux
On se laissera porter
Comme dans nos rêves
Sur cette mélodie
Elle nous suffit ce soir
À se croire immortel
Comme la nuit

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J'ai le cœur qui s'emballe
Il envahit mon âme
Je me croyais plus fort
Même si ça m'est égal
Si la vie est un jeu
Lequel de nous deux
Est celui qui chante

Si on s'éclipse ce soir
On le sait tous les deux
On se laissera porter
Comme dans nos rêves
Sur cette mélodie
Elle nous suffit ce soir
À se croire immortel
Comme la vie

Si on s'éclipse ce soir
On le sait tous les deux
On se laissera porter
Comme dans nos rêves
Sur cette mélodie
Elle nous suffit ce soir
À se croire immortel
Comme la vie

English Translation

One plane
The love light in the soul
It was so lucky
We jump of the Rooster to ***
The head in the stars
A song is a game then
Let us do our best
Let us do know

If we s'eclipse tonight
It's obvious the two
It will be let wear
As in our dreams
On this melodie
It is sufficient for us tonight
To feel immortal
As the night

My heart races
He invaded my soul
I thought I was stronger
Although it with me
If life is a game
Which one of us
Is he who sings

If we s'eclipse tonight
It's obvious the two
It will be let wear
As in our dreams
On this melodie
It is sufficient for us tonight
To feel immortal
As life

... ... Tum tum tum tum tum tum ...

If we s'eclipse tonight
It's obvious the two
It will be let wear
As in our dreams
On this melodie
It is sufficient for us tonight
To feel immortal
As life

... You of the of the ... you ...

Skinny Love

Skinny Love by Bon Iver 2008

Come on skinny love just last the year
Pour a little salt we were never here
My, my, my, my, my, my, my, my
Staring at the sink of blood and crushed veneer

I tell my love to wreck it all
Cut out all the ropes and let me fall
My, my, my, my, my, my, my, my
Right in the moment this order's tall

I told you to be patient
I told you to be fine
I told you to be balanced
I told you to be kind
In the morning I'll be with you
But it will be a different "kind"
I'll be holding all the tickets
And you'll be owning all the fines

Come on skinny love what happened here
Suckle on the hope in lite brassiere
My, my, my, my, my, my, my, my
Sullen load is full; so slow on the split

I told you to be patient
I told you to be fine
I told you to be balanced
I told you to be kind
Now all your love is wasted?
Then who the hell was I?
Now I'm breaking at the britches
And at the end of all your lines

Who will love you?
Who will fight?
Who will fall far behind?

i told you so


I told you to be patient
I told you to be fine
I told you to be balanced
I told you to be kind
Now all your love is wasted?
Then who the hell was I?

~Skinny Love by Bon Iver

see coffee see tea


She drink coffee
She drink tea
and the rooster crows

~Feist (cover of Nina Simone's See-Line aka Sea Lion Woman)

Sea Lion, Sea Line, See the Lyin', She Lyin'

See-line Woman - Nina Simone

"Sea Lion Woman" (also "Sea-Line Woman", "See [the] Lyin' Woman", "She Lyin' Woman", "See-Line Woman", or "C-Line Woman") is a traditional American folk song originally used as a children's song.

The origins of the song are not known but it is believed to have originated in the southern United States. It was first recorded by folklore researcher Herbert Halpert on May 13, 1939. Many covers of this song has been done but but I'd say the most famous and well done by the amazing Nina Simone (one of my favorite musical artists) in 1964. Nina popularized the song as "See-line woman" on her album Broadway Blues Ballads.

See line woman
She drink coffee
She drink tea
And then go home

See line woman
Way down you're done
Behind the lock
And the rooster croaks

And then go home
And then go home

See line woman
Black dress on
For a thousand dollars
She wails, she moans

And then go home

See line woman
Dressed in green
Wear silk stockings
With golden seams

And then go home
And then go home
And then go home

Empty his pockets
Wreck his days
Make him love her
And he flies away

He flies away
He flies away
He flies away

See line
See line
See line
See line

Wiggle wiggle
Turn like a cat
Wink at a man
And he wink back

See line woman
Way down you're done
Behind the lock
And the rooster croaks

And then go home
And then go home
And then go home

There are different versions of the lyrics depending on who has covered the song.

A remix of the song was released in 2002 on Verve/Remixed compilation.

Feist did a great version of it on her album The Reminder.

Feist - 2005 performance in Paris, France

Sea lion woman
She drink coffee
Sea lion woman
She drink tea
And a rooster crows

Sea lion woman
She drink coffee
She drink tea
And a rooster crows

Sea lion woman
Dressed in red
Smile at the man
When you wake up in his bed

Sea lion woman
Dressed in black
Wink at the man
Then stab him in his back

Sea lion woman
She drink coffee
She drink tea
And a rooster crows

Sea lion woman
Dressed in white
Marry the man
And you'll spend a long sweet life

Sea lion woman
Dressed in green
Silver lining and golden seams

Sea lion woman
Dressed in blue
Call on the man
And hope he knows what he can do

Sea lion...

Sea lion woman
She drink coffee
She drink tea
And a rooster crows

Sea lion woman
She drink coffee
She drink tea
And a rooster crows

Sea lion woman
Dressed in the blue
Call on the man
And hope he knows what he can do

Sea lion woman
Dressed in red
Smile at the man
When you wake up in his bed

Sea lion woman....

Afghanistan Troops do their own version of the Lady Gaga "Telephone" video

24-year-old soldier and amateur video director Aaron Melcher included the following note:

"This is a couple guys located in afghanistan, that re-made the music video by Lady Gaga....Telephone. Prepare yourself for a fantastical journey. Right now this is the temporary version, we have more scenes to cut, and edit, however with guys always on mission it is harder to film than you think."

The soldiers have not answered and of the pressing questions by the media.

While I personally do not find the video to be THAT good, I do find it interesting and bold of the male soldiers to behave flamboyantly. I love that these men have not let machismo get in the way of having some innocent fun. However, my assumption is that the media will do all they can to voice speculation that these gentlemen are gay. Although, there is no way to know who is gay or who is not in the video I think that it is a brave and wonderful move on their part being that the army is continually threatened by the dreadful "don't ask, don't tell" policy.

According to Aaron Melcher there is more to come so I will be looking forward to what they come up with next. I imagine resources are scarce for such an endeavor and it seems like the troops have done well with what they have.

Thursday, April 29, 2010

When we scream "take it back!" - Demanding retraction of sexist comments...does it work?


Rep. Betty Sutton (D-OH) was the target of a sexist attack when Republican Tom Ganley, who wants to take her place in Congress, funded a mailer sent out by the Republican party that said:

"Let's take Betty Sutton out of the House and send her back to the kitchen."

Yes, it is astonishing that anyone could carry this mindset. Sad, sick, sexist.

Rep. Sutton is asking the public to sign a petition to push Tom Ganley to denounce this comment, and for Medina County Republican Party Chairman Bill Heck, who continues to defend this sexist attack, to step down.

To view or sign the petition click here.

Although, as a feminist I am saddened by Ganley's comment I do not necessarily believe that getting the man to denounce his comment accomplishes much.

I did post the above link to the petition site as I do not oppose the fact that Rep. Sutton is standing up for herself. My issue is that when a person is offended via a sexist, racist, homophobic comment the result is usually a demand for the person or persons to take back what they said.

I'm just not sure how productive this is. I say this because when a person apologizes under the hot lamp of media scrutiny it is obvious that they are only attempting to avoid more bad publicity. Sure, sometimes we regret the things we say but more often than not a sentiment that comes from sexism, racism or homophobia is deeply rooted.

So, we may get someone to apologize and take back what they said but that does not mean that their beliefs are any different.

Remember when "shock jock" radio host Don Imus referred to the Rutgers basketball team as "nappy headed hos"? He was made to apologize but most likely Imus carries the same beliefs he always did.

I also recall that the Rutgers basketball team showed up on the Oprah show and various other news and entertainment programs explaining just how talented and intelligent they are by listing various qualifications. In my mind they felt they had something to prove and I think that offensive commentary from a racist radio host does not suddenly devalue who a person is. I believe it was not necessary for the women of the Rutgers team to show the world just how non-ho like they are.

The point I'm trying to make is that when we are so offended by others that we demand that they apologize we are not really accomplishing anything for the future of feminism. While not responding to oppressive language and thought may not always be the appropriate choice depending on the circumstances it can sometimes prove to be a more mature and bold move.

Just as I believe the Rutgers team needn't have toured the media with their proclaims of independent womanhood, I think that Rep. Betty Sutton needn't send out a petition.

By all means inform us of Tom Ganley's sexist views so that we can go forth and hopefully make educated decisions. Let us oppose Ganley. Don't make Ganley recant his statement. It won't be a sincere takesy backsy anyway.

It is my view that demanding a retraction is merely an angered response and is not well thought out.

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

tea and serenity

by sayra at deviant art

"Tea does our fancy aid,
Repress those vapours which the head invade
And keeps that palace of the soul serene."

~Edmund Waller, "Of Tea"
(English poet)

Sunday, April 25, 2010

UK documentary explores "The Perfect Penis"

Just recently I viewed a documentary from the UK's Channel 4 station. I've come to be intrigued by many of their featured documentaries and I found "The Perfect Penis" to be interesting and altogether saddening.


"The Perfect Penis" - Part 1

"The Perfect Penis" - Part 2

"The Perfect Penis" - Part 3

PART 4 is not available on YouTube

"The Perfect Penis" - Part 5

"The Perfect Penis" - Part 6

The documentary speaks to male insecurity and desire for dominance. One young man admits that he lives in an area where plastic surgery is abundant and he feels pressure to conform. Another man admits that penis size is about dominance for him. Another admits that he feels pressure to enlarge his penis as pornography teaches this (one of the many reasons I do not advocate pornography).

The women that are interviewed offer varied responses. Some believe that penis size should not be of much concern while others believe that size makes a difference in the bedroom.

We all have insecurities and I would like to point out that many of our physical insecurities are due to patriarchy. Straight and gay women alike are under pressure to fit into a mold that the media insists women should aspire to.

In the heterosexual community (and let's face it when it comes to sexuality most media is aimed towards/to please the heterosexual male) some men conform to the harms of patriarchy as they feel they need to compete with each other. Not only is it a competition over who is larger but it is a competition of status. Larger to many equates to dominance over women. More specifically it is assumed that any woman would prefer a larger penis and that once a woman receives this in the bedroom then she will be ultimately submissive to him, praising him and inflating his ego. It's not about connection ladies it's about a sense of surfaced empowerment. This kind of attitude makes me want to run.

For those who may think that with this post I am taking an opportunity to male/penis bash, please think again. It is my admiration of men, women and the concept of respectful community that I say these things.

For those who are interested, visit a previous posting entitled A Serious Look at the Penis, which speaks to how beautiful, weird, silly, complex, simple, humble I find the penis to be. I also mention that the way I view the penis often depends on the situation, person, and connection to the owner.

When a man views his penis as a power tool of sorts, the penis becomes ugly and dangerous in my eyes. A penis can become dangerous in my eyes not just because of the idea of rape or abuse but the idea of hierarchy or dominance.

That being said I also believe that we can celebrate our bodies including our genitalia. Rather than overcompensating to rid ourselves of shame why not take the time to teach ourselves to embrace what we have? Easier said than done I know, but it is possible. It would definitely be less expensive and less dangerous than penial enhancement.

I mention in my post A Serious Look at the Penis that, "I can only hope for the future of men that they can learn to see that their penises do not make them stronger. That they can celebrate themselves but also feel humbled by their own bodies."

For further reading and interest I highly recommend the book, A Mind of it's Own: A Cultural History of the Penis.

I read it a year or so ago and found it to be quite interesting. The book speaks to how the penis has been viewed through the ages. I have found that things haven't changed much throughout time. But make your own judgment.

If any of you are interested, Channel 4 also has a documentary entitled, "The Perfect Vagina".
To view the documentary and read my thoughts visit my post, "The Perfect Vagina - Documentary." The documentary speaks to how many women view their vaginas and how many are turning to labiaplasty to create their own version of the perfect vagina.

In the film sculptor Jamie McCartney presents his "Design a Vagina" project. It is with this project that he casts plaster molds of women's vaginas to display the diversity. To read my post on McCartney and his art visit my post, Sculptor Jamie McCartney and his Design a Vagina Project.

Tea Drinking


Tea Drinking

The first cup moistens my lips and throat;

The second cup breaks my loneliness;

The third cup searches my barren entrail but to find therein some thousand volumes
of odd ideographs;

The fourth cup raises a slight perspiration-all the wrongs of life pass out through my pores; At the fifth cup I am purified;

The sixth cup calls me to the realms of the immortals.

The seventh cup-ah, but I could take no more! I only feel the breath of the cool wind that raises in my sleeves.

Where is Elysium? Let me ride on this sweet breeze and waft away thither.

~Lu T’ung (chinese poet)

tea not immorality


“I am in no way interested in immortality, but only in the taste of tea.”

~ Lu Tung (chinese poet)

Saturday, April 24, 2010

puppy and cupcakes

from serious eats. posted by Robyn Lee.

Cupcake Crayons

Cupcake crayons from GaddyNipper

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Inner City Snail

Slinkachu, is a street artist who’s based in London. “In 2008 I started the ‘Inner City Snail’ project, involving the decoration of snails that I find around London. After decoration, the snails are then placed back, free to go about their business in the city.”

(images via: Inner City Snail and More Intelligent Life)

(image via: Inner City Snail)

(image via: FreakingNews)

(image via: McCrappy)

I didn't mean it

I hate it when I accidentally step on a snail..

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Columbine - 11 Years Later

I think about Columbine from time to time and when I do it always brings me great pause, but I am always aware of it on the 20th day of each April. It is the day on which the Columbine shootings occured, it is Adolf Hitler's birthday, (which is not why the event occurred on that day. It was originally set for the 19th. There is a question of a link to the anniversary of the Oklahoma bombing which took place on the 19th) Equal Pay Day, "four-twenty" which is the day that many pot smokers celebrate, and a former close friend's birthday.

I do not wish to trivialize other school shootings or shootings of any kind, but I must say that Columbine unnerves me more than any. I think it is because I was not much older than Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold at the time of the shootings. I too, was considered "weird" by my style of dress, bright magenta hair and "odd thoughts". Just like at Columbine (and I'm sure most schools) my school experienced a weirdos vs. jocks...or "cool guys" rivalry. However, there was much more than that involved in the motive of the shooters. In addition, what intrigues and saddens me is that the boys planned out the event for a year. In reading their journals (from the therapist in me very much attempted to empathize their misery and pick apart their feelings and actions. But then some form haven't we all?

Today marks 11 years since the event. Doesn't feel that long ago does it? Rather than get into my personal views of the whys and why nots, I'd just like to stress the importance of empathy. Not just for the victims and the families but the shooters. Yes, the shooters.

Last year I read a book that had just been released on Columbine simply entitled "Columbine" by Dave Cullen. I had heard that Oprah was planning on airing a show about Columbine which included an interview with the author. At the last minute she decided to pull it off the air as she claims she reviewed the show and felt it focuses too much on the killers.

Well, I do think that after the event there was indeed much focus on the killers. But I think with good reason. Everyone had questions. I'd like to think that it wasn't just about America's intrigue with drama and mystery.

I do think that it is important to pay attention to the victims. To celebrate them and to honor them. The people who died, the ones injured, the families, friends, the community.

I'd also like to say that as sick as the actions of the shooters were, I think all hearts and minds might heal and benefit from sending some sympathy and empathy their way. Why so?

Why does someone build so much hate inside them? So much that they are willing to kill? I am sure there are a lot of environmental sources that can contribute. Perhaps even mental issues within these boys that contribute to their struggle or unwillingness to fight it. Theories galore. My point however, is that I think that it is such a sad notion that anyone could feel that sad and that angry. I can't imagine that anyone with that kind of emotion inside them can truly blame it all on outside circumstances. I can only imagine that much of it was aimed at themselves. The boys' journals are very telling. The boys have much in common but also seem very different from each other.

According to author Dave Cullen's findings Eric was a sociopath and Dylan was truly depressed and very much a follower.

I decided to read some of the reviewing comments of Dave Cullen's book on reviewer stated that they were a former Columbine student and felt yet another book on Columbine was just not necessary as all the community wants to do is heal.

Is this person right? Should authors leave Columbine alone?

Well, I think that film makers definately should have. Gus Van Zant's movie Elefant? Not necessary in my opinion. There are more like it, and I think it is glorifying the killers rather than giving us an open view to understanding. Might I add that the boys both hoped that a film would be made about them.

One reason that Columbine books are coming out at this time is that it has taken several years for information to come out. I do think books can be helpful if the purpose is to truly understand and to take preventative measures. I think books can be helpful for parents especially.

Columbine was tragic. Columbine is tragic. What Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold felt inside is a part of that tragedy. Let us not forget the victims but let us not forget the killers. Not in a sensationalistic way but let us attempt to find sympathy and empathy towards those who harm us. Perhaps that is the true road to forgiveness.

I do ask myself. If I were one of the victims if I would be able to forgive. I don't know. I often have difficulty forgiving people who hurt me. It's one of my weaknesses. But there are indeed victims of Columbine that have forgiven the killers and that is remarkable. If that's not inspiring I don't know what is.

Equal Pay Day

Equal Pay Day was originated by the National Committee on Pay Equity (NCPE) in 1996.

Tuesday was selected as the day to celebrate as it is representative of how far into the work week women must work to earn what men earned the previous week. Because women earn less, on average, than men, they must work longer for the same amount of pay. The wage gap is greater for most women of color.

The wage gap exists, in part, because many women and people of color are still segregated into a few low-paying occupations. More than half of all women workers hold sales, clerical and service jobs. Studies show that the more an occupation is dominated by women or people of color, the less it pays. Part of the wage gap results from differences in education, experience or time in the workforce. But a significant portion cannot be explained by any of those factors; it is attributable to discrimination. In other words, certain jobs pay less because they are held by women and people of color.

Two laws currently work towards protecting workers against wage discrimination. The Equal Pay Act of 1963 prohibits unequal pay for equal or "substantially equal" work performed by men and women. Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 prohibits wage discrimination on the basis of race, color, sex, religion or national origin. In 1981, the Supreme Court made it clear that Title VII is broader than the Equal Pay Act, and prohibits wage discrimination even when the jobs are not identical. However, wage discrimination laws are poorly enforced and cases are extremely difficult to prove and win. Stronger legislation is needed to ease the burden of filing claims and clarify the right to pay equity.

How large is the wage gap?

2008 Median Annual Earnings
of Year-Round, Full-Time Workers

All Men All Women
$46,367 100% $35,745 77%

What can you do to help the effort? You can contact your House Representative and Senators to tell them how important fair pay is to you! Also, ask them to co-sponsor the current bills in Congress that would help to achieve fair pay. You can find a list by state and their addresses at the Office of the Clerk website.

Urge your senators to support the Paycheck Fairness Act (S.182). The Senate Health, Education, Labor, and Pensions Committee held a hearing, "Fair Share for All: Pay Equity in the New American Workplace" on March 11, 2010, with testimony about the Paycheck Fairness Act; see

If you need more information on how to resolve a personal situation involving unfair pay, you can call:

  • The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) at 800-669-4000
  • The Equal Rights Advocates (ERA) Advice and Counseling Hotline at 800-839-4372

To learn more visit or the Fair Pay Campaign.

Monday, April 19, 2010

listening to lately

Who I've been listening to lately...

Devendra Banhart

I Feel Just Like A Child by Devendra Banhart - Live at "Des mots de minuit" french tv show with Jona Bechtolt & Sir Richard Bishop

I feel just like a child
Well I feel just like a child
I feel just like a child
I feel just like a child
From my womb to my tomb
I guess I'll always be a child
Some people try and treat me like a man
Yeah some people try and treat me like a man
I just they just don't understand
Well some people try and treat me like a man
They think I know shit
But that's just it
I'm a child
Yeah I need you to tell me what to wear
I need you to help and comb my hair
Yeah I need you to come and tie my shoes
Yeah I need you to come and keep me amused
From my cave to my grave
I guess I'll always be a child
I need you to help me reach the door
And I need you to walk me to the store
And I need you to please explain the war
And I need you to heal me when I'm sore
You can tell by my smile
That I'm a child
And I need you to sit me on your lap
And I need you to make me take my nap
Could you first pull out a book and
Read me some of that
Cause I need you to make me take my nap
And I need you to recognize my friends
Cause they're there even though
You don't see them
They got their own chair, plate, and a seat
You know I won't touch my food
Unless they eat
From the roof to the floor
I crawl around some more
I'm a child
And I need you to help me blow my nose
And I need you to help me count my toes
And I need you to help me put on my clothes
And I need you to hide it when it shows
From be my daddy's sperm
To being packed in an urn
I'm a child
And when I steal you gotta
Slap me til I cry
Don't you stop til the tears run dry
See I was born thinking under the sky
I didn't belong to a couple of old wise guys
From sucking on my mama's breast
To when they lay my soul to rest
I'm a child
Well I guess I'm always be
A little child

From the Cripple Crow (2005) album

I believe this song is a cheers to embracing the genius of childhood. A wise and sometimes whimsical time when the grown ups think they know it all, when most often they are too jaded. And also simultaneously speaking to the condescending idea that adults must always believe, behave and be a certain way in order to be respected and considered up to par. As if to say, let us be children and don't you dare call me a child!

Saturday, April 17, 2010

the button

"I'm a Christian. I love God, Jesus, the Bible, prayer, worship, serving others -- the whole package. But when my conscience tells me that I'm hurting people by complying with religious conventions, I don't keep pressing the button. I start asking questions."
~Brian McLaren (author, speaker, activist)

Jill Bolte Taylor's Stroke of Insight

We all "people watch". There have been moments when I watch the foot traffic and imagine brains bobbing by. It seems that we are all just brains wearing an outer shell. However, intellectually I understand that we can mold our brains. We can re-wire. We can evolve if we chose to practice. We can learn new skills, quit old habits, realize new ideas and adapt.

The below video is of brain researcher Jill Bolte Taylor. I originally learned of this woman as she appeared on the Oprah show a year or more ago. She spoke of how she lived through and experienced her own stroke.

Taylor gives us insight into the inner workings of our two brain hemispheres and to their potential.

Jill Bolte Taylor has written a book entitled My Stroke of Insight. The book can be purchased here.

To learn more about her visit her website at


(by ernst haas)

Survival By Lady J 2010©

Sometimes we're running so fast we don't consider sensation...

Alexa Meade

Thanks to Viola Fern's Dream for exposing me to this amazing artist.

From the website:

Alexa Meade is a 23 year old artist based in the Washington, DC area. She spent four summers interning on Capitol Hill and in 2008 was a press staffer on the Obama Campaign. After graduating from Vassar College with a degree in Political Science in May 2009, Alexa decided to pursue her passion for art. Her political past has taught her that what one experiences cannot always be interpreted at face value; seeing is not necessarily believing.

Alexa uses acrylic paint to paint bodies and other objects in order to give a different perception of reality.

Natura Morta

To view Alexa Meade's current work go to her flickr page.
Also visit her official website

I Need That Record!

In celebration of Record Store Day a documentary dvd has been released today. The documentary "I Need That Record!: The Death (Or Possible Survival) Of The Independent Record Store is a film by filmmaker Brendan Toller which speaks to 3000 independent record stores that have closed across the U.S. in the past decade.

The film features Thurston Moore of Sonic Youth, Ian Mackaye of Dischord Records Fugazi/Minor Threat, activist and author Noam Chomsky, Mike Watt (and music legend of my home town San Pedro, CA) of the Minutemen, Lenny Kaye guitarist of the Patti Smith Group, Chris Frantz of the Talking Heads/Tom Tom Club and many more. The film also speaks with independent stores across the U.S.

I Need That Record! - Trailer

To purchase the dvd go to

The film can been seen for free during this week only at Pitchfork.

Ian Mackaye talks about the importance of indie record stores

Happy Record Store Day ya'll!

Ian MacKaye from Fugazi talks about record stores

Happy Record Store Day!


For those of you who have never heard of this event, Record Store Day was created in 2007 as a celebration of the culture surrounding over 700 independently owned record stores in the USA, records stores outside of the US.

This is the one day that all of the independently owned record stores come together with artists and music lovers to celebrate music and rarity that is a record store. If you have noticed more and more record stores are dying. Independent stores are becoming more and more scarce as well. Many seem content to download music or burn it rather than purchasing music in a store.

Downloading music is fine however I personally have always preferred the process of purchasing a cd. I love the atmosphere of independent music stores, rumaging to find what I'm looking for and the excitement of being able to take home what I have found. Additionally, I enjoy the artwork that often comes with a cd, being able to hold something in my hands and play it.

In celebration for the day special vinyl and CD releases and promotional products are put out by artists in and outside of the United States. Artists in support of the day also perform in store store concerts. Some festivities include cook-outs, meet & greets with artists, parades, djs spinning and more
Metallica kicked off the first official Record Store Day at Rasputin Music in San Francisco on April 19, 2008. Record Store Day is currently managed by Eric Levin, Michael Kurtz, Scott Register, and Carrie Colliton.

NOTE From the Record Store Website:
A Record Store Day participating store is defined as a physical retailer whose product line consists of at least 50% music retail, whose company is not publicly traded and whose ownership is at least 70% located in the state of operation. (In other words, we’re dealing with real, live, physical, indie record stores—not online retailers or corporate behemoths).

Here are some quotes from musicians about music and record stores:

Henry Rollins

“I have watched independent record stores evaporate all over America and Europe. That's why I go into as many as I can and buy records whenever possible. If we lose the independent record store, we lose big. Every time you buy your records at one of these places, it's a blow to the empire.”

Jack White

“I think it’s high time the mentors, big brothers, big sisters, parents, Guardians, and neighborhood ne’er do wells, start taking younger people That look up to them To a real record store and show them what an important part of life music really is. I trust no one who hasn’t time for music. What a shame to Leave a child, or worse, a generation orphaned from one of life’s great beauties. And to the record stores, artists, labels, dj’s, and journalists; we’re all in this together. Show respect for the tangible music that you’ve dedicated your careers and lives to, and help It from becoming nothing more than disposable digital data.”

Neko Case

“I love the smell of them. I love that people actually care for and know about the music they are selling.”

Billy Corgan

I used to work at an indie record shop so I'll always have a soft spot for the places where I still go to find the most vital music, whether new or still hidden.

Paul McCartney

There’s nothing as glamorous to me as a record store. When I recently played Amoeba in LA, I realised what fantastic memories such a collection of music brings back when you see it all in one place. This is why I’m more than happy to support Record Store Day and I hope that these kinds of stores will be there for us all for many years to come. Cheers!

Ben Harper

“Independent record stores are much more than the name suggests. They are an international community and platform where music has an outlet and an opportunity to grow over the long term, in a way that sincerely connects with community and culture. They are also a magnificent mob of highly opinionated musical bandits which I am proud to call my pals! Bill, keep that indian ring shining for me. Matt, I'LL meet you in the morning for breakfast. John, we'll always have paris. Rhino.....straight outta Claremont!”

Nellie McKay

Independent record stores are aural cathedrals, havens for those who find music as much a spiritual endeavor as passing entertainment. Indie employees will go out of their way to help you find a rare or back-catalogued recording, commiserating over neglected artists & all-but-forgotten masterpieces. They offer discounts & suggest records they enjoy with genuine interest & enthusiasm. Indies embody mom&pop, individualist expression - they're in it for love, not to turn a huge profit or to bend popular taste to a uniform will. viva la indie!

Brett Netson (Built To Spill)

“The local record store is a cultural event. Every purchase you make , every day, every year, it is a rich cultural history in the making. Go down to your favorite shop and grab some coffee, a nice pastry and then head in to the record store for the ultimate recorded experience. Maybe see some friends. Next thing you know you just had a nice afternoon.

Go to one of those big box stores and get the full assault.

Bright sterile fluorescent lights and all that fake, old timey crap on the walls that drives home the point that this is an approximation of an experience. You are one of a million cattle herded in and out of those crapholes. This history can easily be rewritten. And you sure as hell won't talk to anyone there, cause everyone else is just as annoyed, alienated and lost as you are. And, as you get trapped in that endless parking lot it really seals the deal. I have precious memories of my favorite shops and so do many of my best friends. That's shared history man. And buying my first Velvet Underground record or Love's "Forever Changes" , or seeing my first "punk show" flyer, takes that whole experience deep into you. That lasts forever. That's powerful stuff.”

Chuck Berry

"Music is an important part of our culture and record stores play a vital part in keeping the power of music alive"

Ziggy Marley

"Record stores keep the human social contact alive it brings people together. Without the independent record stores the community breaks down with everyone sitting in front of their computers"

G. Love

“Independent record stores are where kids like me learned about the music that made them the musicians they are today. Independent record stores are about the love of records not the love of money!”

Friday, April 16, 2010

beautiful protest

When Gunn Highschool learned that the Westboro Church was planning on visiting their school to protest they decided to do something beautiful.

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

go dutch


I was in a restaurant yesterday picking up a to-go order. I was waiting behind a guy and a girl who seemed to be around the age of 19 0r 20. For whatever reasons the guy did not order any food for himself however pulled out money from his wallet to pay for whom I assumed was his girlfriend.

Originally she did not order a drink with her meal but then at the last minute changed her mind. She then turned to her companion and stated shyly, "sorry". He offered a weak smile and paid.

Whether a man is happy or reluctant to pay for his female companion (not to negate what may or may not occur within gay relationships. I am focusing on heterosexual relationships for this post) I have never understood why we still expect men to pay for dates.

In my experience I have found that there are a lot of women out there who think that a man paying for his date is "chivalrous" or simply the way a man is supposed to behave. Where did this line of thinking come from?

I can only image that it stemmed from a time when women were not expected to work for pay. Men were viewed as the providers and protectors. Are we not past those times?

I think the expectancy that a man should pay for dinner is absurd. It places an unfair pressure onto men and is altogether sexist.

If a man meets a woman whom he deems attractive and wants to get to know her, why should he have to spend money simply for the pleasure of her company?

I personally am a big fan of going dutch. Even in my long term relationships I prefer to split things down the middle. If myself or a partner truly wants to pay, then fine. If we care to purchase one another something special, fine. My issue is when one person expects the other to pay.

For those of you ladies out there who expect or prefer men to pay your way, why not take a minute and ask yourself why this is so. Where did the idea of men paying come from? Who placed the notion in your head? In my mind it just doesn't make sense.

Unfortunately, those who insist men should pay are likely to find a man who is unwilling a cheap date or a selfish person. Again, I find this to be skewed thinking. Sexist thinking to be exact.

Monday, April 12, 2010

Sweet Dreams

Thanks to Viola Fern's Dream for posting this.

I adore cupcakes as many of you know so this little project is right up my alley. A cute little cupcake goes on an adventure.

To view more videos and illustrations visit Kristen Lepore.

Sweet Dreams from Kirsten Lepore on Vimeo.

Sweet Dreams by Kristen Lepore

Men Don't Protect You Anymore part 2


Men Don't Protect You Anymore


Sunday, April 11, 2010

Coffee beans ice cube trays

I often enjoy viewing which is a blog that features creative online designed products for purchase.

Today's feature is a fun way to add to your iced coffee. Coffee bean ice cubes anyone?

Rather than freezing water why not freeze coffee? Rather than dilute your iced coffee with melting ice cubes why not add to the flavor of your coffee by adding coffee ice cubes?

What's fun about these ice cube trays is that they are in the shape of coffee beans. Fun! This coffee bean ice cube tray can be found at for $7.99. To purchase click here.

Saturday, April 10, 2010

heart and soul


"Heart" and "soul" must be the most unpoetic words I've ever heard. Why these words are used in song and poetry is beyond me...


For those of you who have seen the video Telephone by Lady Gaga (feat. Beyonce) then you should definitely check this out. It's obvious that these kids spent a lot of time doing this. They got it down! They even plugged some of the shameless product placement that is in the first video. These kids definitely impressed me.

T-Telephone by Youtube user iYasser and cousins

Stiletto Run 2010...I don't get it

Help me understand the concept of the Stiletto Run. I was in the doctor's office yesterday and I found a random page from some magazine sitting on a pile of other magazines. Women in the UK were running in heels for a prize of shopping money.

I looked the concept up on Google and found that Buffalo New York is holding a Stiletto Run in June of this year.

Women may walk but many run. It is a charity run and the women are running for Ovarian Cancer. However the prizes are more monetary.

In Amsterdam a Stiletto Run is also held but not for charity. The winner will receive $15,000. Their motto is "shopping is a sport."

2007 Stiletto Run in Amsterdam

I don't understand why anyone would subject themselves to this. From the one loose page I read in the doctor's office I learned that some women run on their toes so as not to place pressure on their heels. I imagine it must be quite painful to run in heels. Not only is there a danger of a fall but a break of a heel.

I suppose the draw is that it is interesting to watch women attempt to run in difficult footware. I don't think I could participate in such an event despite a big prize or a contribution to charity. I'd feel put on display. I can't help but wonder if part of the allure of a race like this is that there is a bit of a humiliation factor. Isn't it a bit exploitive?

a thousand wants


"It has been well said that tea is suggestive of a thousand wants, from which spring the decencies and luxuries of civilization."

~Agnes Repplier (American Essayist

The KKK wants you to know that the reject the Westboro Church

I was visiting Womanist Musings today and spotted a post entitled Westboro Church Rejected by the KKK.

For those of you who are not familiar with the Westboro Church, they are a hate filled group. The are known for holding rallies in which they hold signs that make such statements as "God Hates Fags" and "Pray for AIDS." The church believes that AIDS is a blessing from God, that gay men and women are sinners and that 9/11 was also a blessing from God. As a Christian woman this particular group hits a nerve. Their views are heartbreaking.

This a group that will actually attend funerals of gay men or army soldiers. They raise their hand held signs and insist that God hates those who have passed.

What I found interesting about Womanist Musing's post is that it revealed that the KKK have just recently posted that they are not affiliated with or nor do they wish to be affiliated with Westboro.

I'm very curious as to why the KKK are so disgusted with the practices of Westboro as they themselves are a cruel organization.

Womanist Musing's linked to the KKK's website. I didn't know that's where I was being linked to initially but once I got there I decided to check out there FAQ (frequently asked questions) section. I was not filled with anger but sadness. Deep sadness that such philosophies exist within the hearts of human beings.

I pray for the Westboro Church and I pray for the KKK. May hearts turn.

Claymation Tea Time Adventure

Tea Time Adventure

Tea man to the rescue!

tea bag skirt

by Cathryne Elizabeth Hawley

Skirt made out of tea bags. How grand! I'd wear it!

Cupcake scented hand wipes

Cupcake hand wipes? I suppose so. The wrapper is very cute and appealing. Cupcakes vary so I'm not sure exactly what these smell like.

These can be purchased at Fred Flare. They also have "ice cream" scented hand wipes.

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Take Back the Night


Take Back the Night events are starting to brew. Many events carry similar practices. Usually a march occurs at night with vigils and speeches.

The term "Take Back the Night" came from the title of a memorial read by Anne Pride (former NOW - National Organization For Women activist) at an anti-violence rally in Pittsburgh in 1977.

The first known "Take Back the Night" march in the United States took place in San Francisco's Red District on November 4th, 1978. The march was put on by Women Against Violence in Pornography and Media. In the beginning Take Back The Night was in protest of pornography and rape.

I'm not sure when or why it happened but over the years the event became less about the dangers of pornography and soley about sexual violence. While I am very much in support of Take Back the Night I am curious as to why it has strayed from it's roots.

In my experience Take Back The Night seems to mean something different for everyone. Some may have felt effects of sexual violence directly while others may know others who have. Some may wish to support the event as a worthy cause.

These events occur largely on college campuses but are widespread. To learn more about the events visit

I'd like to note that although TBTN seems to include mostly women, men are also welcome to support the cause. In fact I think we need more men supporting the fight against sexual violence. While a march may not be the answer it is an act of solidarity. If you are a man searching for ways to support this cause I'd suggest venturing over to Men Against Sexual Violence (MASV). At MASV you will find various suggestions in which one can combat sexual violence.

Sexual Violence is not just a "women's issue". We need the support of men.