Saturday, November 3, 2012

"Going Through a Scary Breakup? Celebrities Have Been There Too" - The Good Men Project


The Good Men Project
, posted a simple article (which really isn't an article) about celebrity women who have had difficulty with romantic breakups. The article features women only, which I find interesting and also disappointing. 

Perhaps the November 3rd 2012 article posted by was only meant to focus on women, but the question is: why? The title, Going Through a Scary Breakup? Celebrities Have Been There Too, suggests that celebrities are inclusive of both genders.

Perhaps was unable to find quotes from male celebrities or perhaps wasn't interested -- there's no way to know. If it was difficult to find quotes from a male voice, that tells me societal influence may be playing a part. Sexist society tells us that it is unacceptable for men to reveal their feelings without scrutiny. There are plenty of men who have been hurt by relationships gone sour and plenty who harbor gems of wisdom derived from their experiences. I would have loved to have read some quotes from male celebrities as well.

The quotes within the post came from Demi Moore, Taylor Swift, Jessica Simpson, Emma Stone, Kate Mos, Vanessa Paradis, Madonna, Kim Kardashian, Halle Berry and Debra Messing.

There are a couple of ladies on that list whom I'm not familiar with.

Below are two of the quotes which I found impressive.

Jessica Simpson

“It was like a death in the family: you go through the mourning stage, then the rebellion, and then all of a sudden you have to find life by yourself … I loved everything about marriage. I loved having a companion to wake up with and have barbecues with. But things happen and people grow apart. I don’t really ever talk about the divorce because it was a heart-wrenching thing to go through.”
— Jessica Simpson said divorce can feel like death.

Emma Stone

“I was crawling on the floor. I remember throwing up. I remember being on the floor … I have never felt anything quite like that. It was so visceral. It’s like someone has killed you and you have to live through it and watch it happen … It was awful.”
— Emma Stone’s teen heartbreak caused her to throw up.

When Jessica Simpson and her then husband Nick Lashay, participated in a reality tv show, she earned a reputation of being a ditz. It's a rep that she has not fully shaken. If there are any concerns, simply read this quote.

She likens the divorce to a death. This is an analogy that I have often used, myself. When you breakup with someone, there is no going back. It's done and that feels unbelievably suffocating.She goes on to acknowledge that although their is mourning there is the desire to fight back or fight off. She then makes the excellent and very true point, that afterwards one must "find life" by oneself. The world is different when you are minus the partnership. I also love how she speaks about waking up with a companion and having BBQs with them. An intimate experience and a seemingly casual one, that exists as a part of every day life. All of that can change in an instant and then all of a sudden, you have to learn to live without.

Emma Stone spoke about how she was crawling on the floor and puking. I've never thrown up, but I've certainly found myself on the floor. Ending up there is a strange and humbling experience. Her statement about living through your own assassination is a profound one.

Thank you ladies. There's an incredible importance and bravery in allowing oneself to be so vulnerable. It is quotes like these that exemplify how human we all are. Now, where are the gents?

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